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Something Old, Something Borrowed, Something Blue

Something Old, Something Borrowed, Something Blue

Here’s an effective Countdown to New Year Releasing Ritual that I created for myself and am sharing with you.

Our ancestors performed rituals to ask the gods to keep them safe and well. In preparation for the New Year they would sit around a tribal fire and for 3 days in a row, shed layers of what no longer served them!

Marrying that ritual to a 19th-century Lancastershire wedding tradition I would like to invite you to countdown to the New Year, by shedding:

1: something #OLD
2: something #BORROWED
3: something #BLUE

….so that we may embrace the New Year with

4: something NEW (and AWESOME)!


1) Let’s start with releasing something #OLD

Make a small fire in your bathtub, in your garden or on your balcony, or simply imagine that this post is your tribal fire.

What is something OLD that has no place in your 2018? What is it that you want to throw into the fire?

– What no longer serves you?
– What are some old beliefs that are holding you back?

Simply write your OLD beliefs, pains or burdens down and burn them…watch them release their grip on you.


2) Releasing something #BORROWED

Most of us carry the burden for other people.
It’s that project you said “yes” to even when your heart was screaming “no”. It’s that relationship you stayed too long in even when in your heart you were long already gone. It’s that holiday you postponed to care for a sick family member or friend. These are the borrowed burdens we drag around. Some burdens are with us ever since our childhood:

“Children seldom or never dare to live a happier or more fulfilling life than their parents. Unconsciously they remain loyal to unspoken family traditions that work invisibly.” -Bertold Ulsamer

Who’s heavy load are you dragging around?
What is no longer your responsibility?

Simply write your #BORROWED burdens down in the comments below, or burn them and watch them release their grip on you.


3) Releasing something #BLUE

Anger, jealousy, fear, regret, and hatred… these are heavy loads. You cannot be at you best when you’re weighed down by these burdens. Put these things aside. You cannot afford to drag them weith you into the New Year.

– Who are you still angry at?
– What are you afraid of?
– What do you regret?
– Who do you hate?

Holding onto any of these things is like “drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” – Buddha.

Simply list your BLUEs, burn them and watch them release their grip on you.

May our tribal fire, virtual or real, burn your OLD, BORROWED and BLUE to ash!